Transformation

Transformation can be a beautiful thing; depending on how hard we fight against or for it. Although its often accompanied by fear, doubt and/or resentment, the outcome is well worth it. The excitement and feelings of accomplishment that one feels after realizing a bad habit is gone, is sometimes overwhelming (in a good way). At times transformation will sneak up and before you know it, the weight that you thought you couldn't lose or the feelings for a man you thought you couldn't get over, is practically gone! What a great feeling! For me, the most eye opening experience of transformation is realizing the power of my thoughts and how they affect the events in my life. For most of my life, I've imagined and expected the worst. In hindsight I believe that by expecting the worst, if the inevitable happened, I would'nt be so hurt at the time. Thinking like this lead to negative thoughts of myself (insecurity), of other people (envy and perhaps jealousy) and the world around me (pessimistic). I was just plain ole negative. What a way to live life! No more! I repeat....no more! I have and am still working to expect nothing but the best for my life and the lives of the people I love. Its our birth rights to enjoy and live the best lives. Why would anyone in the world adopt negative thinking as a way of life? Transformation is taking place right now in my life and I LOVE it! Getting this far has not been extremely challenging, neither has it been a piece of cake. Here are some actions I've taken that may help you:

• Participated in a 31-day reset challenge faciliated at http:///www.happyblackwoman.com
• Attended a webinar on life manifestion facilitated by Stephanie Alva. Checkout http://www.mylifekeys.com/
•  Let go of the negative and adopting more positive views
• Cleaned up my facebook friends list to include only people that add value to my life. I still have some cleaning up to do.
• Study the bible (definitely need to work harder here)
• Don't get involved with negative conversations of other people (still working on this)
• Realize that I was born to greatness and therefore, I expect great things.
• Opened to meet new people that are on the same page as me
• Reading books about positive thinking (several on the law of attraction)
• Minimize T.V., radio and the internet (allowing my brain to rest).
• Working out at the gym at least 4 days a week

Transformation is a continous work of art so, these things may not work well for you. For me, taking these small steps have allowed so much clarity in my life and I feel great. I still have a ways to go.  You should do whatever makes you feel good and bring you joy. I'm loving my life right now. I really am living FEARLESSLY FANCY (my new motto for 2011)! :)

Blessings to all,
from a FAB MOM!

Please share how you are transforming. What was your breaking point?

Happy 25th MLK Day!

Happy 25th MLK Day!

Today I pay tribute to the great Dr. Martin Luther King Jr!. I am grateful for the sacrifices that he and others  made for ALL people and for the opportunities that we have been afforded. Im sitting here reading through pages of an old book titled "EBONY pictorial History of Black America". It's a book about the Civil Rights Movement and the events that occured back in the 50's and 60's. Very powerful, educational and empowering. Knowing what our ancestors experienced (black and white alike) and seeing these images, certainly makes me want to be a better person and to live a life full of LOVE and PEACE. Hatred, Violence, and Ignorance will not have a place in my heart nor home. I hope that everyone will take a moment to reflect on the purpose of this day, the events of the past and be grateful for everything and everyone in your life.

Here are some MLK quotes that I like:

"Faith is taking the first step even when you can't see the whole staircase."

"I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear." 

"Everybody can be great...because anybody can serve. You don't have to have a college degree to serve. You don't have to make your subject and verb agree to serve. You only need a heart full of grace. A soul generated by love."

I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation were they will not be judge by the color of their skin but by the content of their character ."
 
"Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy to a friend."

Hatred paralyzes life; love releases it. Hatred confuses life; love harmonizes it. Hatred darkens life; love illuminates it."

"Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars... Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.



Fearless and Fancy

2011 is the year of "Fearless and Fancy" for me! This year I am commiting to casting aways my fears and living life in a fancy way! That doesn't mean that I'm going on a grand shopping spree and living beyond my means. It means that I will NOT allow fear to control my life and stunt my growth. By living "Fancy"; I mean that I'm giving 1000 percent to everything I do. No more half stepping. No more doing things half way. I will contribute my best! Every project will be done "Fancy and Fearlessly". What's your motto or theme for 2011?

Happy New Year!!

Wishing Everyone The Best Year Ever! I pray that all of your dreams and wishes are fulfilled!!