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Tuesday, February 23, 2010

HIV/AID Awareness:
I read some interesting HIV facts at about the challenges that women face regarding the prevention of HIV/AIDS. Lack of money to pay for medical care, being in an abusive relationship and afraid to question their partner about their sexual activity, and even faltering in their own personal care while trying to care for their children. These are some of the things that don't usually come to mind. You can check the fact list in its entirety here:

Sunday, February 21, 2010

What I'm Reading: The Conversation  By Hill Harper

Just picked this book up on Friday. This book talks about the breakdown of African American relationships. It forces us to think and talk about the different aspects of relationships (what women want in relationships, what men want, the languages of both sexes, Dating, learning to let go of the baggage, Sex, Love, Lust, etc......) I'm only a few pages into the first chapter, but I think this will be an intersting read. If you've read it already, let me know what you think! I checked and found that there were some really good reviews of this book.

Friday, February 19, 2010

Michelle Obama wears Alexander McQueen. Did you think she wouldn't?
Instyle Mag's got pics!! Loves this lady and her "do my own thing style".
When I grow up, I'm gonna be.......nevermind . Just forget it! lol
Check it out here.

Tiger Wood's Apology

So, Tiger apologizes to THE WHOLE WIDE WORLD.

  • Whatcha think about Tiger's apology? I HAVEN'T about it!
  • Was it sincere? I don't care!
  •  Was it necessary? Not at all. None of our business. Between he and his family! Did you apologize in public? lol
  • Do you even care? H%& Naw!! (excuse the language)

Speaking of Tiger and such behavior, be sure to protect yourself and others because HIV/AIDS is VERY real!!! As a reminder,  National Women and Girls HIV/AIDS awareness Day is approaching (MARCH 10, 2010). Stay tuned for Red Pump events taking place in Charlotte!
Want to more about the Red Pump Project? Easy.....just click the Red Pump located on the right side line of this page?

AIDS Awareness Fact:
Generally women are at a greater risk of heterosexual transmission of HIV. Biologically women are twice more likely to become infected with HIV through unprotected heterosexual intercourse than men.

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

I Love Me some ME!!

I love the woman that I see as I look into the mirror each day! I absolutely LOVE the woman that I've become. As I've aged, I've learned that there is nothing more beautiful than the people we see looking back at us each day. Sure I have flaws and imperfections, but they are a part of who I am. They make me ME. As women we are beautiful creatures, all with different features, different bodies, different talents, different strenghts and different weaknesses. Our variations are what make us so beautiful. If we were all the same, how boring would the world be?

If you see anything less than beauty when you look in the mirror each day, you have some work to do! Forget what people think about you because ultimately you control what they think! If you walk in confidence that's what they see. It will show in the way we carry ourselves, the friends we choose, the type of life we live, etc.. If you shelter insecurties, guess what, people see that too! Learn to love and appreciate what you see and who you are becoming because you determine what is beatiful about you!

Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti!

So, I picked this book up YEARS ago and never read it. It's written by husband and wife Bill and Pam Farrel. Pam and Bill attempt to share their advice on marriage and helping men and women connect. Basically, they explain why men are more like waffles and women are more like spaghetti.

While thumbing through the book (after all these years) I came across some funny advice of how men and women impress each other. Here goes:

How To Impress A Woman:
Compliment her, cuddle her, kiss her, caress her, love her, stroke her, tease her, comfort her, protect her, hug her, hold her, spend money on her, dine her, buy her things, listen to her, care for her, stand by her, support her, go to the ends of the earth for her!

How To Impress A Man:
Show up Naked!

What'cha think? True? Funny?.................I think so!

Want to learn more about the book? Check it out at

Monday, February 15, 2010

Kids!! Fabmom In Need of Advice!

Spent the last couple hours of the evening fussing with the kids. I have a son (14) and a daughter (9) who can not get along for nothing in this world. She knows how to push his buttons and he allows her to get the best of him every time. So, I have to listen to the screams and the arguing EVERYDAY! Someone please help!!! How do you teach sibblings to get along? Is that even possible?

AIDS awareness fact:At the end of 2007, the estimated numbers of adults and adolescents living with AIDS were highest in the South and Northeast, and lowest in the Midwest. The states with the most AIDS diagnoses were found in the south, but the cities with the most AIDS cases were spread across the country. Blacks/African Americans accounted for the largest proportion of AIDS cases in all areas except the West where whites accounted for the highest number of cases.

Please check out this interesting review of a lecture from AIDS activist Rae Lewis-Thornton. Please share this story with every young girl that you know.

Sunday, February 14, 2010

Top Five Tips For Finding Love by Steven James Nixon

Interesting video on how to go from girlfriend to wife. Ladies what do you think?

Happy Valentines Day

Happy Valentines Day!

I hope everyone has had a wonderful day with the people you love!

Thursday, February 11, 2010

Rock The "Red Pump"!

Please see the new icon of the "Red Pump" to the right of this page. This pump is to commemorate women and girls who have lost their lives to AIDS. As you know March 10th is National Women And Girls AID/HIV Awareness Day (NWGHAAD)! Leading up to that day, I will frequently post facts/statistics about AIDS awareness. To learn more about the Red Pump and what bloggers are doing for NWGHAAD, click the Red Pump!

AIDS Awareness Fact: There are approximately 1.1 million people living with HIV/AIDS in the U.S. & almost 280,000 are women.

Homework with my daugther is as bad for me as it is for her! Ugh! What can I do to make homework more enjoyable for us both? She doesn't like to be corrected and gets an attitude when told to make a correction. I get upset when she gets an attitude! UGH. Any teachers online. Please share some advice!

Sunday, February 7, 2010

Saints Win the Superbowl 31-17!!

Congratulations to the 2010 Super Bowl Champions!
New Orleans, Saints!!!!!!!
WHO DAT!!!!!!!
(picture from

Thursday, February 4, 2010


Definitions of Change:

  • To make the form, nature, content, future course, etc., of (something) different from what it is or from what it would be if left alone: to change one's name; to change one's opinion; to change the course of history.
  • To transform or convert (usually fol. by into):
  • To give and take reciprocally; interchange: to change places with someone.
  • To transfer from one (conveyance) to another:
I once had a conversation with a close friend who mentioned that they were not willing to CHANGE who they were for a relationship. This was quite interesting to me. Why are we so afraid of CHANGE? CHANGE is not always a bad thing. In fact, it can be quite beneficial.  I personally, WANT to change. Not necessarily for a relationship, but simply for the purpose of growth. I am NOT who I was two years ago and I definitely don't want to remain the same two years from now. I want to become a better person. I will not CHANGE the essence of who I am, but I certainly want to form a bond with that person during the course of the relationship, I hope to transform my bad habits into to good ones. I will give of myself and hope that I have will receive reciprocally. I hope to transform my relationship into something substantial and hopefully at some point, CHANGE my last name! If all of this means CHANGE, then hey, I'm ready! Are you ready for CHANGE?

Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Don't Ask Don't Tell

I don't know much about the Military's "Don't Ask Don't Tell" policy. They're talking about it on Larry King Live. My question about the subject is: Why do we as Americans spend so much time worrying about a person's personal sexual preference?  Excuse my language, but I don't give a damn! When it comes to getting a job done, that's what's most important (in any field). A person's job performance is what should matter and is what is importance. I could care less if you're gay, straight or crooked, if you can get the job done, then please do so! If I (as a woman) chose to be with another woman, that should not affect my job because what I do at home is my personal business. By the way, I don't do women (just thought I'd make that clear).
 We (as a people in general) are so judgemental and narrow minded. Okay. That is all!

National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day- February 7, 2010

Friday, February 5
Sunday, February 7 is the National Black HIV/AIDS awareness day. Please remember to check your local area for events taking place. This Friday in Charlotte, NC those interested can receive Free one on one education and HIV and Syphilis testing! This is a serious problem in our community. Let's take it seriously. Get Educated. Get Tested.

Here are some events taking place in the Charlotte and Raleigh Areas This Weekend

th from 8:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m.
Regional HIV/AIDS consortium (Located in Quorum Park)
7510 E. Independence Blvd. Ste 105 Charlotte, N.C. 28227
Free and Confidential HIV and Syphlis Testing

Saturday, February 6, 2010 12:00 pm - 3:30 pm
Moore Square
Raleigh, NC 27699
Contact: Tyaisha M. Williams
Phone: 919-733-9568

The Alliance of AIDS Service-Carolina, North Carolina AIDS Action Network, and the Communicable Disease Branch we will host a march and rally in recognition of National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day (NBHAAD). We will assemble at the North Carolina State Capital Building (southside/Fayetteville St.) for the march over to Moore Square where the Rally will take place. We will have Gospel singing, spoken word, art, a few speakers and presentations, and FREE HIV and Syphilis testing. A free gift certificate and light fare will be provided for those who test.  (This information was obtained from the Charlotte Post website.)

For more information on the National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness day, check out the Black Aids Day Website at

"Precious" Nominated For Oscars!

Today in the world of Black History: The movie "Precious" received 6 Oscar nods (Best Actress, Best Supporting Actress, Best Director, Best Film, Best Editing and Best Writing)!  Gabourey Sidibe is nominated for Best Actress. Monique is nominated for Best Supporting Actress and Lee Daniels was nominated for Best Director! And YES this IS history!

Monday, February 1, 2010

Happy Black History Month!

Happy Black History Month!

Today, I give THANKS to my ancestors that fought for freedom, respect, justice, well-being and peace for ALL nationalities! I also give THANKS to those of other races that also fought for the justice, education and fair treatment of African Americans and ALL races! I pray for a world of peace and "togetherness".