My Love Letter to 2010

Dear 2010,

Thank you for a year of challenges, accomplishments and most importantly; growth! I met some amazing people this year. I opened myself to dating more, which was an experience in itself. Although, I have not found true love, I’ve met some great life-long friends. The biggest milestone was forgiving a family member who I thought I would never speak to again in life. That experience was definitely life changing! I see now that it was for MY benefit.


My professional arena has been the most challenging, but with these challenges, I’ve found a new sense of confidence in knowing that I am capable of doing and achieving so much more. These challenges have restored a burning flame in me to strive for better. I am forever grateful!

I’ve had so many great experiences such as my first trip to the Bahamas with family and friends, graduating from college, becoming a new seller on Ebay and shopping trips to Atlanta with my best friend!

The best thing that you have given me this year is wisdom, confidence and insight on becoming the person that I have always wanted to be; ME, with no apologies! Thank you for preparing me for great success in the year ahead. 2011, here I come!!

100 Things That Make Me Happy!

1. Seeing my children happy
2. Every month when I'm able to pay my mortgage
3. The start of each new day because I'm alive
4. Memories of my mother
5. Nice Perfume (when I smell good)
6. When I feel beautiful
7. Sea Food
8. Looking back and posts on my blog
9. When I can make someone smile
10. Having a job
11. Having a car
12. Having enough to provide for my kids
13. Spending time with family
14. Laughing on the phone with a good friend
15. Knowing that I've helped someone help themselves
16. Starbucks White Chocolate Mocha Latte with Toffee Nut syrup
17. Thoughts of achieving my goals
18. Thoughts of my desired life
19. Thoughts of my future husband
20. Thoughts of God's love for me
21. Thoughts of being in love again
22. Thoughts of being financially stable
23. Old School Music
24. Hanging out with my friends
25. Flipping through the pages of Instyle Magazine
26. Dressing up
27. Shopping for clothes and shoes
28. Marie Claire Magazine
29. Reading Essence Magazine
30. Flipping through the pages of Lucky Magazine
31. Shopping on Ebay
32. Accomplishing goals
33. Being able to fit into my jeans like I want to
34. When my kids make good grades
35. When I receive compliments
36. Silly things that my kids say
37. Being able to have a good relationship with my kids' father
38. When I can refrain from cursing somebody out at work
39. When my kids make good grades
40. Acne free skin
41. Doing nice things for others
42. Singing loudly in my car
43. Butter Pecan Icecream
44. Checks in the mail
45. Memories of my childhood
46. When I think about getting out of an abusive relationship
47. African American Love
48. Let me be honest......Money
49. Decorating my home
50. Attending Music Concerts
51. Attending Comedy Shows
52. Attending Church
53. When I master a new skill
54. Learning
55. Knowing someone else is thinking about me
56. Feeling appreciated
57. Receiving a nice email from a coworker or friend
58. When I get a good parking spot
59. When my bills are paid on time
60. Overcoming a fear
61. Christmas Time
62. Enjoying "me" time
63. Reflecting on the past and how I've grown
64. Seeing old pictures of me and the kids
65. When I'm able to resist temptation
66. When I can fit into my jeans comfortably
67. Finding good deals at consignment/resale shops
68. Vintage clothes and accessories
69. Thinking about the boutique that I'm going to open
70. Watching Oprah
71. Receiving gifts
72. Seeing other women accomplish their goals
73. Getting good results at the doctor
74. Tax money
75. When my nails look nice
76. Nice glass of wine
77. A really good book
78. Self Improvement articles, websites and books
79. Fashion
80. A nice relaxing lounge
81. Dancing with my family
82. Live music
83. Pappadeux's in Atltanta
84. Traveling outside of North Carolina
85. The calm feeling of landing safely in an airplane
86. Boy short (panties)
87. Tea and Lemonade mixed together
88. A really good salad
89. My trip to the Bahamas
90. My trip to New Orleans
91. Flowerbomb Perfume
92. Guilty Perfume (By Gucci)
93. Making it through an intense workout
94. Coconut Pecan cookies from Harris Teeter
95. Makeup
96. A man with nice shoes and great cologne (my weakness)
97. Nice shapeup on a man
98. Eye opening conversations with my children
99. Millionaire match maker
100. Family gatherings

Investment

My tip of the day surrounds the word "investment". To invest means to contribute to or to partake in something of interest. An investment is not always related to money. As women, we should be more willing to invest in ourselves. And I don't mean invest in a hot pair of shoes or a newer car. Those things are nice (and I can certainly appreciate both), but they both involve a monetary investment. Whatever it is that we are seeking to improve or become, we should focus on that and involve ourselves with people or activities that can help us get to where or who we want to become. So....how are you investing in yourself?

For me, I'm investing in self improvement by participating in Happy Black woman's "31 days of resetting your life". It doesn't cause me a dime. Check it out here http://www.happyblackwoman.com

Vision Board Party

Friday night, I gathered with a few friends and family members for a party with a purpose! We had a vision board party! It was a lot of fun. We ate appetizers, drank a lil wine, created our vision boards and........learned a new line dance! I shared my vision board with the attendees and some quick information about the law of attraction and helped them create their own.

The beauty of the night is that we talked as women about some of our insecurities and challenges and encouraged each other to strive for success. Some of us arrived at the party with visions in mind, and one particular woman, left with a new found vision that she did not have prior to the party!

At the end of the party, I shared instructions on creating a life map that I pulled from http://www.happyblackwoman.com/ (The Life Mapping Workbook). By the way, if you're interested in improving your life and finding your life's purpose, you definitely want to check out The Happy Black Woman's website. There's lots of personal development information there.


 I am excited about the things that we will accomplish in the very near future. It's great to encourage women to step out of their box and lay their fears to rest. We definitely had some great ideas and creativity going on that night!

Here are a couple of the boards that were created! Some of them are incomplete. The purpose was to at least get started. Enjoy!

“Health Challenges: Not a Death Sentence (Health Challenges in People of Color)

Hello,

I wanted to let you all know about an upcoming event that I may be attending at a new museum in right here in our area. I didn't know anything about this museum until two days ago and it's within a 10 minute drive from my house! I'm definitely taking a tour soon. Anyway, check out the info below. The information below was actually obtained from a press release for the LATIBAH Collard Green Museum. I enourage all who can attend to attend. I'm sure it will be quite informative!

Charlotte's newest history museum, LATIBAH Collard Green Museum, is proud to partner with local agencies to present a health-related, discussion symposium on some of these major health challenges of people of color. This event is presented not only as an urgent ‘need-to-know’ matter, but also in tribute to National Diabetes Awareness Month.

Panelist from: Community Health Intervention & Sickle Cell Agency, Carolinas CARE Partnership, C. W. Williams Community Health Center, and Mecklenburg County Health Department will discuss the critical health needs concerning ‘the daily practices of what we eat and how we live that impact the prevention and cure of major health concerns’ specifically sickle cell disease, high blood pressure, diabetes, and HIV/AIDS. Other local health agencies have been invited to be on-hand to share materials and vital information on this important issue that will assist us all to be healthier.

This program is FREE to the public and will be presented during the “LATIBAH Talk” Black issues lecture-discussion series entitled “Health Challenges: Not a Death Sentence” on Friday, December 3 @ 7-8pm at the ArtHouse Center for Creative Expression  in the NoDa area. .


 About LATIBAH:

LATIBAH is the acronym for "L.ife A.nd T.imes I.n B.lack A.merican H.istory". The  LATIBAH Collard Green Museum is a history museum comprised of a collection of installations, exhibits and artifacts of fine art and cultural history. The museum covers key historical eras from the enslavement of Africans through the American systems of slavery, reconstruction, and integration to the 44th President of the U.S.A.

The LATIBAH Museum is the anchor tenant in the ArtHouse Center for Creative Expression - NoDa located at 3103 Cullman Ave. - off 36th St. [‘cross the RR tracks] between North Davidson St and North Tryon St. To gain a more complete sense of the museum’s year-and-a-half growth and development, please visit the website. http://www.latibahmuseum.org/

Tip of the Day-Diversify

Surrounding yourself around people that are different than you helps you to become a well rounded person. Finding someone who has different beliefs than you and honestly trying to understand their view points helps you to be more sympathetic and understanding. Getting to know people of different backgrounds not only makes you wiser, but it also build relationships and partnerships. The word "diversity" means variety. I truly believe that in order to succeed in this world and to grow as a person, we must have a variety of resources and a variety of people in our lives. We should all seek to meet and interact with people that are different than us.

Save $$ Using Coupons

My new favorite hobby is saving money!!! How am I saving money? By doing something SMART women have been doing for YEARS; using coupons! Yes, coupons! Sounds frugile? Like something old women do? Well say what you want....I've saved over $100 in less than a week (yes I said ONE week) simply by clipping coupons and using them only when an item is on sale. I've saved money on groceries, cosmetics, household items; even dog food! Thanks to Jenny over at http://www.southernsavers.com/, for keeping me updated with what's on sale and the best places to use coupons. She can even tell you how to get FREE stuff. And what fabulous mom doesn't like FREE!

Times are hard for most of us in this economy. If you're like me and looking for ways to save money, using coupons it it! Take a moment to check out http://www.southernsavers.com/. I promise you, it's worth it!!

Gloves For Guys Donation Drive! Please Support!

Gloves for Guys

Keeping Homeless Men Warm This Winter!

Please help keep homeless men warm this winter by donating the following items:

Socks

T-Shirts

Hats

Gloves

Underwear

Thermal Tops and Bottoms

For convenience, donations can be dropped off on Saturday, October 23rd AND Saturday, October 30th from 10:00 a.m. to 1:00 p.m. at the K-Mart parking lot on Freedom Drive. ****Look for the beige tent!!

All items will be donated to the Men’s Shelter of Charlotte

For additional information, please call 704-968-4877 or 704-200-1896. You can also email 2browngirlsinc@gmail.com



Strengthening the bond of sisterhood while creating an environment of EMPOWERMENT, MOTIVATION and EDUCATION



Feeling On My Boobies!

It's not what ya think!! Well, yes it is. I really am feeling on my boobies and you should too!!!

It's the 4th Annual Feel Your Boobies Week. Feel Your Boobies And Remind A Friend.

http://www.feelyourboobies.com/

How To Save Money Using Coupons

Hi Everyone,

I wanted to share a website that you can access to learn how to save lots of money using coupons. We know that all we have to do is print the coupon, take it to the store and SAVE! However, this site (run by a genious stay at home mom) shares tips on when/where the sales are and how to SAVE BIG! You can also find out where to get samples as well as FREE products. I just saved money today; simply by pulling coupons from my Sunday's paper and comparing where to get the best deal for the coupon. Don't believe me? Check out the site at http://www.southernsavers.com. As much as I hate to buy groceries, I can't believe I've waited this long to start couponing. It's SIMPLE...SMART...SHOPPING! Enjoy!!!

Wow, I have been slacking for too long. Haven't been on the site in a minute. Almost forgot my log on, it's been so long. I've been extremely busy with the kids, work, AVON and vacation. Enjoyed my time off, but I really need to write more to release some things on my mind. Don't have much to say tonight. Guess I need to get some topics together and get back on point. I just picked up the latest Essence magazine. Gonna read the topic on "What Black Men Want". That should be interesting. Maybe I'll post a few pointers. Good night for now.

A Few SCD Facts

As I mentioned in a previous post, September is National Sickle Cell Awareness Month. In honor of sickle cell education, I plan to post a few tid-bits of information regarding the disease, research and statistics throughout the month. So....here goes....

Although Sickle Cell Anemia is NOT a "black" disease, 400 to 600 Black American babies are born with Sickle Cell Disease each year.

If two people with sickle cell TRAIT (not disease) have children, there is a 1 in 4 chance with EACH PREGNANCY) that a baby will be born with sickle cell disease

Sickle Cell mostly occurs in people of Afrian descent. It also occurs in people who has ancestors from around the Caribbean Sea (Puerto Rico, Haiti, Jamaica) as well as ancestors around the Mediterranean Sea (Italy, Sicily, Greece, Turkey, Cyprus, Syria and South India).
Sickle Cell Disease Association of America


Celebrities born with Sickle Cell Disease
Miles Davis
T-Boz (from the group TLC)
Paul Williams (The Temptations)
Prodigy (From the rap group Mobb Deep)

Celebs that Support Sickle Cell Awareness
Tiki Barber
Loren Tate and his brothers Larron and Lamard
Dr. Ian Smith

Randoms

So it's 2 a.m. and for some reason, I just won't lie down. So.....I'll just ramble about a few things I finding on the internet.

First off, I finally got a chance to check out Ulta Consmetics. I know right, where have I been? This store is a make up junkie's heaven. Sooooo much stuff to look at. Anyway, the new fall Issue of Instyle Magazine (With Jennifer Hudson on the front) has a ton of cosmetic sample ads for Ulta. Go pick up the magazine, so you'll know which samples to ask for at the store! Hurry because the samples are only while supplies last!

Also, congrats to Jennifer Hudson for winning Instyle's Makeover Of the Year!


Looking for a site that provides opinions or feedback on different cosmetics? Check out http://www.makeupalley.com/ This is one of my favorite's sites. Anytime I'm looking to get views on certain products prior to purchase, I can always go to this site to see how others feel certain products. Another good thing is that you can create a diary of the products that you've purchased. I love this because I can always go back and check to see which foundation colors or lip glosses that I've purchased. Check it out and let me know what you think. You can also see what other people are buying and what's popular right now in the beauty world!!

So, I'm at a bridal party today and a young lady compliments me on my skin. "Tissa, your skin is so pretty". My reply: "Oh, thank you, but that's Bare Minerals"! Yep, Bare Minerals is my new love! Their foundation is extremely light and natural looking! So far I'm loving it and recommend it to others looking for a natural glow with very little coverage. Bare Minerals yall!! Try it.

Okay, getting sleepy. Good night. Take care until next time.

Trust In GOD

Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight.

One of the challenges that I face in life, is trying to figure out how things will work in the future, and doubting my successes based on what I see is possible. Reading this scripture put things in perspective for me. I know that in order to prosper and to achieve my goals, I have to start trusting that GOD can make a way out of no way. Even if I can’t see the possibilities, they are there! It’s not my duty to figure things out. It’s my job to know that with work and faith, GOD will bring me to the path that HE has set for me.

National Sickle Cell Disease Month!!

Septemeber is observed nationally as Sickle Cell Disease Month. Many of you may or may not know that my 14 year old son was born with Sickle Cell anemia; a blood disorder inherited at birth. Throughout the month of September, I will share tid bits of information related to Sickle Cell Anemia.

I first wanted to recognize all of the brave individuals who live with this painful disease each and every day. For many, it is not easy. As a parent, it certainly is not easy watching my child live in pain. I thank GOD that he is otherwise healthy and live a normal and productive life.

The first tid bit of information that I want to share is information about the Kermit B. Nash Academic scholarship. The purpose of this scholarship is to reward the academic achievement of individuals with sickle cell disease and to promote their pursuit of educational goals. This is awesome because as you may know, students with sickle cell face many challenges academically due to excessive absenteeism. For more information about this scholarship and other sickle cell related topics, access the website for the Sickle Cell Disease Association of America or click the link above.

Yiasou Greek Festival 2010-Get Your Eat On!!

Hi Everyone!!! Time to get our GREEK eat on!!!

Yiasou Greek Festival

Holy Trinity Greek Orthodox Cathedral

600 East Boulevard

Don't miss this year's festival. This will make a great outing to enjoy with the family!

11 am to 9 pm Thursday, Sept. 9th
11 am to 10 pm Friday, Sept. 10th
11 am to 10 pm Saturday, Sept. 11th
12 noon to 8 pm on Sunday, Sept. 12th

Admission is $2.00 as normal. Kids 12 and under are admitted FREE as long as they are accompanied by a parent or guardian.

School groups and senior citizens groups can make arrangements for free admission by contacting Helen Karras at the church office at 704-334-4771 by Thursday, August 27th.

Family Nights at Noodles & Company in August!

Hello!! This is for readers in the Cary, NC and Raleigh, NC (Cameron Village) Areas!!

Looking for a FUN family activity? Noodles & Company is offering a speacial treat for the entire month of August!

Noodles & Company is hosting family nights EVERY Tuesday in August at the Cary and Cameron Village restaurants From 5-9 p.m!

Each Tuesday night  in August, kids 12 and under eat for FREE! Key word here is FREE!!

Each child will enjoy a small bowl of noodles and a drink.

It doesn't end there! Also during family nights, customers can sample cookies, Rice Krispy treats and other fun activities!

Be Sure To Take Advantage of This Wonderful Offer! 

Got To Give It Up

Thank GOD for video cameras. I'm browsing through some old pictures tonight and came across a video of my 80 year-old grandmother dancing at a family function. "Got To Give It Up" by Marvin Gaye was one of my grandmother's favorite jams. How ironic is it that I find a video of her dancing to this song? Warning! My family is quite silly, but we sure know how to have fun. Rest In Peace to my loving grandmother (known to all as "Ma E.") Give It Up!!Enjoy!

Verve Beauty Anniversary Celebration Week

Join Verve' Beauty Spa and Salon for their Anniversary Celebration Week!

July 27th through July 31st

Enjoy refreshments and giveaways the entire week!

For more information check out http://www.vervebeauty.com/

or call 704-332-3717

Criminal Justice Degrees

Looking for a career in Criminal Justice? Check out this website for information on the most common degrees in the Criminal Justice field. You will also find an up to date and complete listing of different states and Universities that offer Criminal Justice related degrees and courses.

http://www.criminaljusticedegree.com/

What Drowning Looks Like-Parents: You Must Read This

I found an interesting article on yahoo.com about a few misconceptions of what "drowning looks like". We usually imagine a drowning victim as one who waves and screams for help in water while gasping for air (at least that's how it is depicted in movies). Unfortunately, I've just learned that a drowning victim does just the opposite. Click the Link for the full story. Parents: you definitely want to check this out.

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/parenting/drowning-looks-different-than-you-think-2010225/

Life's Simple Treasures

picture from http://www.artbywicks.com

There are so many beautiful, yet simple things in life that we overlook on a daily basis. For example; the sound of crickets singing, the wind blowing, a child's laughter, a beautiful butterfly, a corny joke that makes you laugh until tears form in your eyes, running into a childhood friend at the grocery store, the sound of giggly girls playing patty cake, a song that remains relevant 20 years after it was made (hint: What's going on by Marvin Gaye), uninterrupted sleep, stress free days and nights, back in the day conversations with family and friends, or a soft kiss from a spouse. I could go on and on and on, but my days are so busy and my nights are so short that I forget to notice all the simple things that bring me joy...........until I'm FORCED to sit down and take notice. Note to busy parents: Life goes by so fast. We are busier today than we've ever been. Take a minute to slow down, reflect and enjoy life's simple treasures. It's the most simplest of things that can calm our spirits and renew peace. Enjoy them!

Happy 3rd Anniversary Verve' Beauty Spa and Salon

Hi Fabbies,

In need of relaxation and pampering at a nice, upscale salon and spa? Well you can find that at Verve' Beauty Spa and Salon! Be sure to join them this month as they celebrate their Third Anniversary.

Find out more about their upcoming Anniversary Celebration Week and more by going to http://www.vervebeauty.com/promos.htm

Cute Avon Shoes

So, I'm roaming the July issue of Lucky magazine and came across a familiar looking shoe. I'm thinking to myself "I've seen these shoes somewhere before." So, I look closer at the designer's name written in small print and sure enough.....they're by Avon! How cool is that!!!! Lucky mag is marketing shoes by Avon! Check them out here. Super cute and super cheap for only $30.

Check out my online Avon site for these shoes and other super cheap Avon items. http://www.youravon.com/omarble. Need help finding at item? Leave a comment and I'll gladly respond with a solution!

Cara B Naturally

CARA B Naturally™, a Natural skin and hair care line is created specifically for ethnically diverse babies and children. For more information on this new line, please visit http://www.mycarab.com

Be Sickle Smart!

The Be Sickle Smart Empowerment Tour is coming to a city near you!

Be Sickle Smart is a program that campaigns around the country raising the awareness of Sickle Cell Disease and it effects from iron overload. Dr. Ian Smith (many know him as the Dr. on Celebrity Fit Club) has now joined forces as the Guest Speaker on the Be Sickle Smart Empowerment Tour.

Attendees at the events will:

•Gain insight into how others live with SCD

•Learn about iron overload
•Get a free screening to see if you are at risk of iron overload (this is for people with SSD)
•Be creative and have fun
•Your painting or drawing could win a spot and be featured in the 2011 SCD calendar
•Share your poetry and rhymes about living with SCD
•Participate in an SCD Wii challenge for all age groups
•Take home a free Be Sickle Smart tool kit and meet Dr. Ian Smith

To find out more information about the Be Sickle Smart Empowerment tour and when it may be in or close to your city, text BSS plus your zip code to 74139 or click the link below to be routed to Dr. Ian's 50 million pound challenge website.
http://50millionpoundchallenge.com/the_challenge/be_sickle_smart/empowerment_tour.aspx?site=PU001571&source=01030&irmasrc=EXJWB0222

The tour will be in Raleigh, NC on July 31st and yours truly will be in attendance!

If you know anyone suffering with Sickle Cell Disease or has a child with Sickle Cell Disease, please share this information with them.

My Recent Consignment Store Find!

Not sure if I mentioned this before, but I absolutely lovely dovely LOVE thrift and consignment stores. Gonna open my open one day! Any hoot, just wanted to share pics of my most recent pic-Super Duper cute Gucci Peep Toe Pumps!

I've never been into White Shoes (other than sneakers), but I could not think about leaving these in my newly found favorite consignment shop.

What do you guys think? I think they're adorable. :0) Don't hate on consignment shops!

I'm An Avon Representative

As a child, I clearly remember seeing Avon books lying around my grandmother's house. She ordered Avon products religiously. Skin So Soft was always a staple in our family, as well as the creamy perfumes that came in that small round jar. My perception of Avon has always been that it was for "older ladies". That was until one of my close friends recently re-introduced me to recent Avon books. Avon has definitely stepped up their game. Looking through the books, I've found a really sexy one shoulder dress that I plan to wear on my cruise to the Bahamas this September. Check it out!!

I've also found another convertible dress that can be worn in 7 different styles!! (see them blelow.

There are also some really cute accessories that I have my eye on. Okay Avon, we see you!!With that said, I've decided to take a stab at working as a representative for Avon. Door to Door marketing has never been my thing, so I have to be creative in how I get my name out. Definitely won't see me knocking on doors though. We will see how this goes!

Any hoot, I highly recommend you to check out the new products Avon has to offer from the new Skin So Soft products, accessories, and dresses to the lovely cosmetics products. You will be surprised at the great finds. You can access my online store where you can make easy purchases and have your items mailed directly to you. http://www.youravon.com/omarble.  Be sure to share with your friends. You can also purchase MARK products at this site!

What I LOVE Being A Black Woman

When asked what I love about being a black woman, I graciously replied by saying:

I represent the most beautiful species on the face of the earth. Being part of a group that represents strength, courage, power and beauty makes me proud. I know that no matter what challenges come my way, I know that I can overcome them because I am a black woman and we are resilient against all things. I love the different shades of black women. I love our curves. I love the textures of our hair. We are the most desired women in the world. People pay to make their lips look like ours. They pay for tans to mirror our skin tones. They love the fullness of our hips. We are beautiful inside and out. THIS is why I love being a black woman!

Never Give Up On A Dream!

If you have a vision or a goal, do not get discouraged if you can't see HOW things will pan themselves out. Take small actions that move you closer to achiving that goal. Be proud of those small accomplishments and remember that they will lead to a greater accomplishment. We all know that Rome wasn't conquered in a day. Many people allow their visions to die because they can not envision HOW they will make those impossible things possible. Take this advice:as long as you have the vision and the passion, don't give up!! Keep pushing towards that goal. If you don't have the resources or the capacity to make things possible, do some research on how you can obtain the resources. Seek assistance from others, network and build meaniful partnerships that will help you. Don't give up!!!

I had a great extended weekend spent with family. Saturday, my sister and I went yard saling and stopped by a few consignment shops. You guys know I love consignment shops and yard sales! I relaxed most of the day on Sunday and spent the evening eating dinner with my dad and his wife. Sunday night, my sister and I took the kids to see the fireworks. Actually, my sister and I went to see the fireworks (the kids didn't seem to pay them any attention.) Although the fireworks can use a boost (they seem to be the same ones every year), I was quite relaxed while watching them. Something about that experience reminded me of my childhood and how we could sit on the picnic table in my grandmother's backyard and enjoy the entire show. Watermelon, kids running all over the place and old school music! Yeah, the memories were more exciting than the actual fireworks! Back to my weekend. Yesterday, I met with a good friend to discuss plans on a project that we're working on. The meeting was super productive. We've got a lot of great plans in store. I can't wait to share more information about it. Stay tuned is all I can say! Oh well, there went my weekend. It was great. Now, back to work.


Hope you all enjoyed your weekend! What did you do?

Mid-Year Resolutions

So today marks the second half of the year. Only 6 more months before this year is over. Wow, time has surely flown. By this time of the year, most of our yearly goals are in place and close to completion.......except if you're me!! At the end of last year, I identified (notice I didn't say "I set") goals that I wanted to achieve this year. Have I achieved them so far? No!!! Have I even initiated these goals? Not quite. I realize that in order to be successful, I need to start setting goals and working on them consistently. I've been too comfortable and wasting time. Below is a list of five goals that I want to accomplish before the end of the year. Writing goals down and making them visible increases our chances of actually working on them. So, once I post these, I'm going to print them and place them on my VISION BOARD!

1. Network, Network, Network- As suggested by http://www.thecubiclechikc.com/  , networking is vital to building a successful blog and brand. So my plan is to step out of my comfort zone and get to networking.
2. Attend at least 3 blogging events-If not in person, then perhaps on blog radio.
3. Planning and research for my business- I am currently in the research and planning stage of my business (more to share on that later.) By the end of the year, I hope to be closer to having a name for the business, knowing my target audience and an idea of a location.
4. Organize-One of my biggest challenges is organization. From paying bills to returning phone calls to scheduling and keeping appointments, I am the worst when it comes to organization. I have to get better at this. I honestly believe that once I am more organized, I will be able to spend more time on the blog and make some major improvements of it.
5. Live a fuller life-This goes without speaking. In the past few years, I have lived my life in fear. Fear of being rejected. Fear of being hurt and fear of failure. I have made a committment to make the most of my life; becoming spirtually in tuned, trying new experiences, traveling more and stepping outside of the box.

These are just a few of the goals that I would like to achieve. There's only five, but they are definitely attainable and something that I feel I can/should achieve before the end of the year. How have you done with your goals this year? Have you met your goals and how did you stay on track?

2010 BET Awards

The 2010 BET awards went down last night. Hosted by Queen Latifah,  It actually was not all of that bad. I don't recall any drama. There were some things that could have been a little more entertaining like Usher's performance or perhaps different selections for the Prince tribute (Alicia Key's rocked it), but overall it wasn't too bad.

The best performance of the night was Chris Brown's tribute to Michael Jackson. Chris became very emotional while singing "Man In The Mirror" and couldn't even finish the song. I imagine the words to the song really sank in and hit home. There were teary eyes in the crowd and people all over twitter and facebook were talking about this performance. We all know that Chris is a MJ fan. I can't think of a more fitting artist to have done this tribute.

All of the performances were decent, so I can't think of a worse one.

I don't have a BEST Look of the night, but Nia Long was gorgeous as usual. Monica's hair was hot as usual, but her performance dress made good as a costume in the movie "Bat Man". Ciara looked nice. Queen Latifah looked gorgeous hitting the stage. She's lost alot of weight. Throughout the show, she changed into various costumes of characters from the movies she's appeared in. Her outfit as Chloe from Set It Off was a mess. But overall, the queen is beautiful. For the men, of course T.I. was handsome. Tyrese and Lorenz Tate also looked good. Lil Kim I mean Nicki Minaj had the worst look of all BET awards show. Keisha Cole, was really close though with that horrible hair. I love KC, but just why? Nicki's orange wig matched with the wedding dress was not the business. I can't get with the whole Barbie Doll looks and antics. I wish grown women would just act like grown women. She won an award so hey, good for her. Guess that's what matters (side eye).

Okay, that's it for now. I'm headed to work. For more scoop on the awards, head on over to http://www.bet.com/

PEACE!

Message From The Emerging Leaders Mentoring Program

The message below is a special message from the Emerging Leaders Mentoring Program (the program that my son attends). Please spread the word. They need our help.

WISDOM LEADERS!



We need Wisdom Leaders (retired black men) to volunteer their time to provide assistance during the Leadership Development Summer Program for Black Males being held at Barber-Scotia College at 145 Cabarrus Avenue West in Concord, NC.

Specifically, we need ten men to volunteer to help with the following tasks:

Prepare breakfast

Prepare lunch

Provide guidance

Share wisdom

Run errands

Monitor outdoor activities

Lead by example

Volunteer Schedule

You can volunteer whenever it is convenient for you between 8:00 am - 5:00 pm Monday - Friday. You do not have to volunteer a certain number of hours. You set your own hours. We need you to start as soon as you can.

Interested?

Please contact Susan Woods at 704.968.2769 or woods.susan@yahoo.com to volunteer to serve as Wisdom Leaders. We need you to help prepare 45 black male teens to be leaders! Thank You!

Call 704.968.2769 to volunteer as a Wisdom Leader!

Celebration of Michael

It's been a year since we lost Michael Jackson. Although he is not here in the physical, he is here in spirit. We continue to celebrate his his life, talent and contributions to the world. Whether people are willing to admit it or not,  Michael Jackson has probably had the most impact on music than another other muscian in the world. We immulated his style and music in the past and we continue to do so today. We love you MJ!! Hee-hee!!! I'll definitely be playing his music all day today!!

I'm a neutral color freak, but I'm realizing that my wardrobe is pretty "blah"! I have way too many neutral colors. I need to add a little more splash of color! I'm finding that when I wear items with color, I feel happier. Puts me in a better mood. All of these dull colors are getting boring. With all the stress of working and parenthood, I need to do all I can to stay in a happy mood!!

Today is the third day of camp for my son and he has enjoyed it! I'm so proud of him for being open for new opportunities. He's on his way to 10th grade and although I make most, well all of his decisions for him, he is pretty open to meeting new people and trying anything at least once. I'm realizing that he is growing up and as hard as it is for me, I have to allow him to make some decisions on his own and to let him develop his own character. So far, he's doing well. He's a good kid. I'm confident that this program will help him stay focused and hopefully, he'll even mature a little! I'm so grateful!

A Little Discomfort

Happy Monday! I woke up this morning and the the word "discomfort" immediately came to mind. Today is my son's first day participating in a mentoring program for young black males. Although it's a positive program with tons of benefits for him, he would much rather spend his summer doing things of his own choice. I explained to him that in order to progress in school, in a career and in life, there will and must be some level of discomfort. Being too comfortable will stagnate us and leave us in the same place for years. I'm excited for him. I know the feeling of being around people you don't know and in an environment in which you are unfamiliar, however, this experience will teach him the importance of networking and getting to know people from other walks of life. As an adult, I am familiar with discomfort. In fact, I welcome it into my life right now. I too have been stangant in my career and my life and I am now looking for opportunities to grow, advance, network and just live a more exciting life altogether. I'm happy for my son and the little hint of discomfort that he is experiencing as I type this post. I can't wait to see his growth at the end of the summer.

The Fathers In My Life

As I reminisce on my childhood, I realize how lucky I was to have two fathers. My biological father; Paul Abraham and my step father; Harvey Sanders. Both were influential figures in my life and both are great grand parents to my children. My biological father, Paul taught me that it’s never too late to pick up the pieces in your life and start anew. At nearly 40 years old, he stumbled and lost nearly everything he had; his apartment, his car, and his job. It wasn’t long before he regrouped and pulled his life back together. During his downfall, we remained close and I learned not to judge people for their circumstances because even the strongest can fall and get back up again.


Harvey was more influential during my child hood. At a very young age, he taught me to be self sufficient. That doesn’t mean not to ask for help when I need it, but to attempt to do things on my own first. As soon as I learned how to drive a car, I also learned how to change a tire as well as how to put motor oil in my own car. Harvey was a great provider for our family. We didn’t have everything we wanted, but we had everything we needed.

I give honor to them both. Many children grow up without even one father. I was lucky enough to have two. Thank you Paul and Harvey. I love you both. Thank you for teaching me and thank your for loving me.

My dad (Paul ) and my son at my son's mentoring program induction ceremony.

I LOVE being a Black Woman! There is nothing more beautiful!

This is a subject that I really did not want to touch upon on my blog because I don't want to be depicted as an angry black woman, however it is something that  bothers me. First question: Why do men who pay court ordered child support play the role of a victim? Within the past month, I have heard 2 men say "she got what she deserved" or "she's the one who went to the court, so now she's gonna get less". Second question: Is it just my thinking or have men forgotten that child support is support for the CHILD; not the mother? Who is the victim here? The father who is FORCED to provide financial support for THEIR child or the child who may be lacking  necessities due to a selfish, non-supportive father?

Let me get this right:So you feel "slighted" or "betrayed" because the mother of your child is asking for financial support? Men, please try and understand this: Child support is NOT for the mother. I repeat. It is NOT for the mother. In family law and government policy, child support is the ongoing practice for a periodic payment made for the financial care and support of children of a relationship or marriage that has been terminated.  The purpose of child support is to cover costs incurred from raising a child, which includes but is not limited to food, shelter, school lunch, medical expenses, clothes, schools supplies, daycare, afterschool care, summer camp costs, extra curricular activites (sports, dance, etc..) tutoring, libraries fees, gas to transport them back and forth from A to B.

Now that I've got that off my chest....I will say, that there are some GREAT fathers out there. I happen to know several. To those men, I say "hats off to you, Thank you for caring. I respect you and I pray that our future (especially in the African American community) will see many more great fathers like you".

Thanks and have a fabulous day.

Today I choose to be happy and to free my mind of negative thoughts. The more we harp on the things that aren't going right around us, the worst we will feel. Challenges will come and we know this. How we react in times of challenges make all the difference. Throughout the day listen to uplifting music or refer to enfluential quote. Ralph Marston has some good ones. Think of things that make you feel good or wear something that makes you feel beautiful. Do anything that keeps your thoughts on POSITIVE!!

Also, let's all make a special effort to surround ourselves around happy, positive people. Some people are so miserable and insecure. Give those type of people some space or else they'll begin to rub off on you and you'll soon be acting in the same manner. Have a great day folks. Stay fabulous!!!

Do something nice for someone today! It will make you feel good!!!

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I am so grateful to have lived to see another day and therefore, I will maximize my efforts in EVERYTHING I do. No use in being mediocre. I realize that some things in my life could be a bit better, but guess what if I had done better, things will be better. Not all of our challenges are within our control, but MANY of them are! Some of us need to evaluate our lives (including me) and rethink some of our priorities.

Lots going on with me. Kids have one more day in school!! I'm as excited as they are because I can sleep 30 minutes during the week!! Yay for me!! They will be sadly mistaken though if they think they're getting an academic break. I'm going to break them alright. My daughter needs alot of work in order to be prepared for 5th grade. Thank GOD for her 4th grade teacher for referring me to some good educational websites to visit this summer and for providing me with a math textbook to use for the summer. In case anyone is interested, the websites she referred to me are: http://edhelper.com/, http://multiplication.com/, http://fractions.com/ and http://www.spellingcity.com/.

My son needs an organizational and structure class!! Hopefully, if he is accepted into the Emerging Leaders product, he'll get some practice.

Okay, folks. I'm headed to work. Remember that positive actions follow positive thoughts. So think good things all day today! :0)

Happy Monday,

Ready to start a new week. Mondays aren't my favorite but hey, at least I made it to see another one!! Definitely blessed. Looking forward to a positive week. Had a busy weekend. My daughter had a track meet in High Point,  N.C. It was XXXXtra hot and the day was looooong! She did well and I'm proud. Maybe I'll share some pictures later. Okay, fabulones ones, be positive, think happy thoughts and enjoy your week.!!

Oh, anybody looking forwar to the VHI Hip Hop Honors tonight? I am. There were lots of tweets about them last week. Ready to see it for myself tonight!

Peace!!

Twelve Rules for Building Confidence

Twelve Rules For Building Confidence

By Alan Loy McGinnis

Reading a book titled "Confidence (how to succeed at being yourself" by Alan Loy McGinnis
 
Below are 12 rules that Mr.McGinnis share to help build confidence. I'm enjoying the book so far. Found it at a hospital's book store for $3.00.

1. Focus on your potential instead of your limitations
2. Determine to know the truth about your self
3. Distinguish between who you are and what you do
4. Find something you like to do and do well, then do it over and over
5. Replace self criticism with regular, positive self talk
6. Replace fear of failure with clear pictures of yourself functioning successfully and happily
7. Dare to be a little eccentric
8. Make the best possible peace with your parents
9. Determine to intergrate the body and spirit
10. Determine to live above neurotic guilt
11. Cultivate people who help you grow
12. Resuse to allow rejection to keep you from taking the initiative with people

Happy Early Memorial Day

Happy Early Memorial Day!

Memorial Day, which is observed on the last Monday of May, commemorates the men and women who died while in the military service. In observance of the holiday, many people visit cemeteries and memorials, and volunteers often place American flags on each grave site at national cemeteries. Many people celebrate by spending time with their loved ones. As you prepare for Memorial Day weekend, please remember to think about the people that have and is sacrificing their lives for our freedom and saftey. Please be responsible in whatever activities you particpate in. Do NOT drink and drive.

Janet's New Hair Cut

So I'm roaming around on the internet tonight and ran across a picture of Janet Jackson dressed really pretty with what seemed to be a short haircut. Sure enough it is! Janet has cut off all of her hair! See some of the pics here. I think she looks beautiful. They say older women look better with short hair. I guess I'm keeping mine short! :0) For more pictures, check out http://www.concreteloop.com/ . Janet is simply beautiful. No matter how she wears her hair.

I had a conversation the other day with a friend guy. I explained to him that he was a great guy, but he just wasn't the guy for me. After a number of "nice" explantions, I finally had to come flat out and tell him that at this point in life, I preferred someone that was more stable than he is. I encouraged him to focus on his life and try to get things in order for himself financially. That was the easiest way for me to say "I ain't dealing with no broke-broke"! His response: "I feel you. I want to be where you are one day. I'm all for stabilism." STABILISM! My response: That is not word!

That's when I pulled my dictionary out and ended the conversation.....for good.

Men!

Self Preservation (Dealing With Offense)

Good morning and Happy Monday!

I'm still reading the book "The Bait of Satan". As I've shared before, this book deals with offense. It teaches how to overcome offense and how to deal with internal issues that lead to offense. When I read self help books, I often highlight important notes and then go back into the book and re-read pieces. This helps me alot because I usually find important notes that pertain to how I'm feeling at certain times. Like today, I found a highlighted note that talks about Self-Preservation and how we isolate ourselves when we feel offended. I am the first to admit that I shelter myself when I feel like someone has offended me. I've always believed that this was my way of preventing an argument or going off on someone,  but really it's a to protect myself and to ignore my insecurities or the role that I played in the situation. Here's what the book says about self preservation:

"A common excuse for self-preservation through disobedience is offense. There is a flase sense of self protection in harboring an ofense. It keeps your from seeing your own character flaws because the blame is deffered to another. You never have to face your role, your immaturity, or your sin because you only see the faults of the offender. Therefore, God's attempt to develop character in your by this opposition is now abandoned. The offended person will avoid the source of the offense and eventually flee, becoming a spirtual vagabond."

So basically, when we back away from an offense, we ultimately lose because we miss out on opportunities for GOD to build our character. This is something that we should all think about the next time we're offended. Is the offense really an offense or are we trying to protect ourselves from what we know is true? What are your thoughts?

10 Discussions To Have With The New Guy

So you meet this new guy who seems to be everything you've been waiting for and more. He's so much different than your last man. He's tall. He's dark. His swag is on point. His cologne blew you away when you first met! He makes you feel "a certain kind of way"! But, what about his character? What about his past relationships? What is his family background? Some may think it's too early to ask important questions and prefer to just "go with the flow"! But that's the problem with many young relationships today. We're so concerned with the types of shoes he's wearing and what's in his pocket that we don't get to the core of who this man really is and what he stands for. Then it's too late. We soon find ourselves head over heels and in love with  the biggest BUSTER! He won't love us back and is not worth our time.

Every woman should have candid conversations with the men we meet in order to really get to know that person. Here are the top 10 discussions that I think are important:

1. Marital Status- We often assume that dude is not married, but if you just ASK, he'll tell you. Don't ask and he won't. He'll wait until you ask.
2. His relationship with the mother of his children -most men our age 30 and up DO have kids by now. I appreciate men who respect the mother of their kids and have maintained a good relationship with them.
3. Work ethic-How long has he been at his job? Does he even work now? If not, get to stepping. You will soon be paying for the dates, gas, etc..
4. Financial Stability- You don't need to know what's in his bank account, but hell can he at least keep his cell phone on?
5. HIV status-For real, ask him when the last time he was tested and what the results are.
6. His relationsip with his family-If he doesn't have a relationship with his family, ask him why? If it's not important to him, but you value family, then this union may not last for long
7. Jealousy-This is self explanatory
8. Religion-Does he go to church-if he doesn't go to church now, don't expect him to always want to go with you. If he believes in a different spiritiful figure than you, don't count him off, get to learn what his beliefs are and determine if you are willing to compromise in the future.
9. His relationship with his kids-If he doesn't spend time with his own kids, he probably won't give a damn about yours. Bottom line
10. Has he spent time in jail?-How often has he had run ins with the law? Does he respect the law? If not, he won't give a damn about respecting you.
11. Ask him SPECIFIC questions about past relationships-try to get information from him about his cheating patterns and things like domestic violence. That will tell you how he feels about respecting women (I know I said 10, but this one was equally important)

Okay, this is my list. These are not in order in terms of importance. They are all important to me!

What are some important discussions you have when you first meet a guy?

Good morning,
This is some very important information that I wanted to share from Emerging Leaders!

Mentorship Program for Black Males

Passing the torch of leadership to the next generation!


INFORMATION MEETING

Free Summer Program for Black Males

Saturday, May 15, 2010

9:30 am - 12:30 pm

York County Public Library

138 Black Street (beside Police Department)

Rock Hill, South Carolina 29732



Register online at www.elmp2010.com

ATTENTION PARENTS!

Has your son applied for admission into the

FREE Leadership Development Summer Program?

Application deadline is May 15, 2010

The Emerging Leaders Mentorship Program (ELMP) for Black Males is hosting a free six-week "Leadership Development Summer Program" for black male teens from June 21 through August 6 on the campus of Barber-Scotia College in Concord, NC. We are inviting applicants from Cabarrus, Gaston, Mecklenburg, and York counties to apply for admission.

LIFE-CHANGING EXPERIENCE

Parents, please do NOT allow your sons to tell you they do not want to apply for admission into this life-saving program! Research shows that we lose many of our children during the summer due to them becoming bored and choosing to engage in negative activities.

Our program provides mental, physical, and spiritual development. The "Leadership Development Summer Program" is not the typical "camp". Instead, this program allows your sons to meet some of the most successful black men in the four-county region we serve. Your sons will also be able to complete a major community service project. Finally, because we realize the importance of including FUN activities in the program, your sons will enjoy field trips each Friday!

PARTICIPANT TESTIMONIALS

In closing, please select the link below to see video testimonials that four participants shared last year about their experiences during the 2009 Summer Program. You will be amazed!

http://good-times.webshots.com/slideshow/573856045xrgwIb


Sincerely,

Brian Freeland, Program Manager

Emerging Leaders Mentorship Program for Black Males

704.502.1137 / brian@theelmp.com

We look forward to seeing you at the

INFORMATION MEETING!

Feel free to bring your son's application to the meeting.

Redirect Your Thoughts

A good way to move forward in life or to achieve goals is to focus positively on the things that we want instead of focusing on the things that we don't want. I have a habit of stressing on the things that I don't want to happen in my life instead of imagining things to play out how I actually want them. I'm actually going through this as I type!! I'm hoping that I can look back and take my own advice.

It is very important that we pay attention to our thoughts because as we've learned from the book "The Secret", we bring to life the very things that we focus on (good and bad)

Good example: most of my readers know that my son has Sickle Cell Disease. 2008 was a tough year for us. My son was in and out of the hospital frequently. In 2009, he started to spend less time in the hospital. At one point, he had gone almost 9 months without being admitted. I realized this and brought it to his attention and shortly after, he was back in the hospital. We had another incidence a few weeks ago, where I brought up the fact that it's been about 6 months since he's been in the hosptial and sure enough, we were at the emergency room a few days later. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure there are other factors such as the weather and physical activity that brought about his crisis, but my point is my constant thinking about this has in some way brought it to reality.

A good tip on correcting negative thinking is to re-route those negative thoughts when arrive and speak of only those things that we want to happen. Example: I am looking foward to having a nice dinner with an old friend. Or perhaps, instead of saying, hope I haven't gained too much weight for my favorite pair or jeans, one could say something like, I look foward to fitting comfortably in my size 4 jeans.  In my case, I think it's best that I don't make mention of my son's illness as it relates to having a crisis. The reality of this situation is that I have to actively make sure that he eats well, take his meds and watch his physical activity, but I will not make mention of the pain crisis and hosptitalizations.

If you have any tips to postive thinking, please share them in comments.

AIDS Walk Charlotte 2010

I know it has taken me a whole week, but here are the pics from the AIDS Walk Charlotte event. There were just a few family members and friends that walked with me, but I'm grateful for the support.

Thanks to all who supported my team (Fabulous In 2010)! We met our recruiting and fundraising goals. Our goal was to raise $200. We raised $225. This was our first year, but we'll definitely do it again. We had so much fun. This wasn't a sad, dreary event at all. There were freebies, music, dancing (we got our cupid shuffle and single ladies on) and lots of mingling. This was a great event. Thanks to the Regional Aids Interfaith Network, Radio Stations Power 98 and Kiss 95.1 and Rosedale for sponsoring this event!